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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the OP of the receipt thread.  I felt I should respond.  I'm doing ok.  I feel a bit disassociated from this whole situation, to be honest.  The entire situation blindsighted me.  I did not marry the man who I saw last night.  But I have an appointment with a therapist tomorrow.

I asked Jeff to lock the thread not because of how mean people were being, but because I did not want to see some 13+ page thread unfold after I logged on to share that he had, in fact, cheated.  I would find the compassion more difficult to bear than the bullying, which I can distance myself from.  I'm a career sales person, I have a thick skin.  But people saying how sorry they were, siding with me, sharing their (all too common) stories - I felt that was too much to bear.  And I wanted the thread that I started out of fear to end.

I'm grateful to DCUM.  I was going to believe him, and I have a right to know who I married.  What happens next, well, everyone can feel rest assured that I'll be ok.  I have a strong family, a solid sense of self, and I'm not by any stretch of the imagination a wimp, as a few people indicated.

Thanks for the well wishes.

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To the OP:  I am a male.  I have used similar services.  I can't tell you why your H used them, but can tell you why I used them.  The reason (and many people will find this icky) is it turned the sex act into a business transaction.  No emotions.  The first time I was 22, and was always horny, and did not know how to pick up girls.  $80 bucks solved the problem.

Later, when I was in grad school, I did not have the time for a relationship, but desired sex.

I do not believe either of those where trafficking victims, and  I was not in a relationship.

The last time, I was far from home, married.  I had been away for about 3 weeks for work.  I was feeling lonely....conversations with DW were impossible because of timezones.  I am not proud of it; I really wanted to just pay her to talk to me, but, she was a professional....

Bottom line, guys do this mostly to have sex with no emotion.  They do not imagine a relationship with the hooker.

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