Reply to i wish my mother understood me... feeling like a child, help me not act like one

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "i wish my mother understood me... feeling like a child, help me not act like one"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Your parents feel entitled to criticize your choices because they provide you with free childcare. Be independent financially from your parents and you can tell them that you must agree to disagree and LEAVE whenever they insist on bringing it up.[/quote]

My parents have not provided me with any financial support for the past 25 years, and yet they criticize my decisions.  But I just say, "we will have to agree to disagree on this one," and change the topic.[/quote]

OP here. I think they would butt in regardless. They just have a really laaisez faire attitude towards money. I truly think it comes from having been diplomats where they were never expecting to stay here for very long plus a guaranteed pension plus the fact that their incomes weren't taxed... And their only point of comparison is the super rich super generous younger brother. And in their heads, I'm cheap and stingy bc I married a stingy man. [/quote]

You give them way too much information.  Why are you talking to them about this, much less in so much detail?[/quote]

oP here: we're not really american even though we've lived here for a gazillion years; we're from a culture of extended families (DH as well, but not a diplomatic family) and being all together in the area, we act as sort of an extended family system... and while my parents don't know the dollar amounts of what we make, they know the vague estimates. they know our range for homes (and have always told us we should be reaching higher) and our locations.

i think what this thread has made me realize is that its wrong of me to need validation from them for my own choices. i should just won my own choices and decisions and they shouldn't have to approve for me to feel good about them.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics