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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]An affair is just like a marriage, but without the legal obligation.[/quote]

I disagree. I don't think most people go into affairs looking for a "second" husband/wife. Marriage is long term partnership, child-raising, dealing with in-laws, bills, taxes, and household management. Affairs are very different. Most affairs fizzle out by 2 years because that is about how long it takes for a lot of the romantic love "chemicals" to die down. [/quote]

I'm the PP who had the 8 year affair.  I was looking for emotional support and sex from my affair partner, and if you're not getting that in your marriage, I don't see why there would be a time limit on that.  My H was interested in sex about 3 times a month, about 20 minutes at a time, and very little emotional intimacy.  I had the affair because I wasn't getting the good things out of the marriage.[/quote]

Why not leave and take the chance to find another fulfilling marriage? I get there are kids blah blah blah but I don't think one parent having a long term affair is better than divorce. Just sounds like a lot of dysfunction and you robbed both you and your H of finding something real.[/quote]

I want the good parts of marriage without the bad ones. I don't want to share my finances, my morning breath, my living space, with another person.  The kids get stability and we coparent and share a house just fine. I do not believe I can find someone who will sustain my romantic interest and yet be a good partner in practical things as well.[/quote]

That's sad. You are selling yourself short, and not requiring all that much out of life. It takes work and a lot courage but you can sustain romantic interest over years. [/quote]

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