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[quote=Anonymous]OP, don't get your heart set on the likelihood of being able to "train him".

I'm married to one of these kinds of guys and we still struggle with it.

You need to learn how to be clear about what you need and want and be honest about it.  Whether or not you're too demanding or high maintenance or unreasonable, etc.... only matters in the context of this relationship you're in right now.  Then he has to be upfront about what he can/is willing to do.  Then you need to try to find a way to navigate the holidays that doesn't set him up to be a villain or feel horribly inadequate and doesn't set you up to feel disappointed or lied to or not valued.

It's ok to be a gift giver and someone who makes a celebration of b'days and holidays, and it's ok to be someone who doesn't choose to do that.  The trick is to find a way to let two people with very different approaches give the other what they need, or at least honor/respect what each needs themselves to find another way to get it.

A lot of the advice here from other posters about buying their own gifts gets at some of that.

Good luck.  [/quote]

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