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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am Catholic but not a practicing Catholic. Very serious with a Jewish man. He wants to get engaged but religion is a dividing factor, [b]he has asked me to convert [/b]which is out of the question. [b]He says its not him but his parents[/b]. I for much the same reasons would not do that though I do not practice my religion. It would kill my mother and it is not a consideration. Any input? We are at a standstill right now. He has said he still wants to go forward and that our families will need to accept things as they are but I am afraid [b]it will come up later when we start a family[/b].[/quote]

Red flag.

Yes.
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Do not move forward without resolving this.  It gets harder, much harder as life goes by and your parents die and major life events happen and you have children.

I was a non-practicing Catholic when I married my Jewish DH and like you, we had not decided on anything re: religion when we married.  Shortly after we married, my dad died, then I got pregnant.  Suddenly a religious community was very, very important to me as were my (Catholic) roots and connections.

In the end we decided that I would raise our children in the RCC, which I have done (with DH's support but not participation).  But it has not been easy - the ILs are not happy about it.  And it can be lonely, not having a DH as part of my church community.

Think long and hard about this.

P.S.  You could consider the UU church, Ethical Culture Society, or IFFP (http://www.iffp.net/).  None of those would work for me because my religious observance is as much about culture and heritage as it is about faith and practice.  But your mileage may vary.[/quote]

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