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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How to handle it when you have a sibling who is not struggling but making ends meet and you are fortunate to live a life of luxury.

I grapple with this. My brother is a good guy, lost his business a few years ago and rebounding back. He is in the building industry, smart and talented and I know will get back. He bought his home but has not been able to do all he wanted because of having to cut back, plus he has 3 kids to take care of and a wife who works as a teacher.

My husband is a lawyer, I have a small home based business and we live in a  beautiful home in one of the areas best neighborhoods, drive nice cars take great trips,etc....I love my brother but feel uncomfortable a lot. Even inviting them over to come swim or play tennis makes me feel funny. My husband said its ridiculous and that he is happy for us but i cannot help but think its a reminder of all he wants to have and should have. I have offered to loan him money but he got mad at me, he is a "mans man" and would never.

We have one baby sister (28) who lives in France, and is getting married there next year, I offered to pay for all the tickets/hotels and he won't have it but I know spending 10k for him is a big stretch right now when he has so many other things to do.

Any advice?[/quote]

You sound like a very caring and sensitive person. I read briefly through the posts and think the offer of the airline miles idea sounds perfect. This way no one is hurt or feeling like they are taking handouts. I think this is more common than many realize. He sounds like a good guy just trying to make his way, hope he will get there but he is lucky to have a sister like you.

Are your kids all friends? How is the relationship between he and your husband?[/quote]

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