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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think he is lying because when I told him that he didn't tell me, he completely lashed out and flipped out. Out of nowhere. I don't think he would be so quick to go on the offensive if it was an honest mistake.

[b]Plus he has a history of lying w/this guy[/b].[/quote]

And that's because you are being a shrew about it. This isn't about him lying. This is about how fucking out of line you are and have been. You ARE trying to control his movements and his associations, and it is despicable.[/quote]

Holy cow.  Calm down!  NP here, and I don't think OP was out of line at all.  I remember having a hard time with DH going out to a movie once with his brother when DC was tiny, simply because I was so overwhelmed and felt like I just needed some help from DH.  I wasn't angry, and I certainly understood that he needed some time "off", just frustrated because I wasn't getting any time "off" myself. But if he had been going out for social reasons frequently, leaving me home to care for OUR baby alone over and over again, I would have been upset and would have told him so.  And then if he kept doing it and lied about it?  The shit would have hit.the.fan.  OP's husband is CLEARLY the one who was out of line.[/quote]

But this isn't about you, is it?

Let's review the facts here. She doesn't have a baby. She's already said this. What she does have is a history of giving her husband grief over socializing with a particular friend. She undoubtedly badmouths this friend, criticizes her husband for seeing him, and generally throws a fit when it happens. Husband has learned that it's simply not worth engaging his wife over this friend, but he also resents her efforts to control who he socializes with so he continues to make plans with the guy and neglect to tell her, so why incur her wrath? [/quote]

I find it funny that you state your intent to "review the facts", then use words like "undoubtedly" to emphasize your pure conjecture.  Here are some actual facts:

1) OP had a newborn when her husband was going out frequently with this friend.

2) On AT LEAST one occasion during this time, he lied to her about it, telling her he was working late, and got caught.

Really, based on those two facts alone, how could you possibly think the OP here is the one who was of line in the past?  Or are you truly ok with your spouse lying to your spouse thinks he/she has been treated unfairly?[/quote]

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