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[quote=Anonymous]13:03 - I think some folks aren't trying to hedge or keep people around in case they need something.  I think sometimes we just feel bad outright saying "I don't want to be your friend anymore" because it would hurt the person's feelings and there's nothing they could do to make the situation better. It's a hard conversation to have, especially if you know the person has very few friends because of their behaviors/actions.  I know we should put on our big-girl panties and have it, but sometimes you kind of just hope the person gets the hints you've been dropping for YEARS.

OP, I wondered if you were the person I've been trying to drop until you said you were both mid-30's.  (i'm in my 40's.)  I think if you're ok with hearing the answer, you should just ask.  If my "friend" asked, I'd tell her that I found her negativity and complaining really draining, and that I look to social occasions to lift me up, not make me annoyed and cranky.

In your case, it's possible that if she used to invite you to stuff and you always said no, that she figured you don't really want to come out so she left you off invites.  I stop inviting people after they've declined many times.  (or said yes but not shown up.)  I just assume they don't want to come out and might not appreciate the invites.  Also, if you haven't been out in awhile, you're not fresh in her mind.  Sometimes when doing invites, the people you've seen most recently pop into your mind first.  Facebook invites are hard - if you have a lot of friends, it can be tough to get everyone invited.  You always miss a few.

The explanation may not be a friendship-breaker, though - you never know.[/quote]

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