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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just ask her what is going on.

Sure, you might get an answer you won't like, but I think it's ridiculous that people would suggest you dismiss a friend without at least finding out what's going on.

It could be a misunderstanding.

If she says she no longer wants to be friends or she thinks you're a "crappy person," then at least you know with certainty.

Honestly, 11:23 sounds like a crappy person.  the fact that you would just drop a friend without explanation and make her basically BEG for an explanation says a lot about you.

No one -- no one -- deserves to be shut out without an explanation.  It's simply not an adult way to behave.  If someone was once a friend or somehow in your life and you no longer want that person around, the decent thing to do is to, at least when asked, let them know why.

It's shitty to "drop" someone and not explain why.  It's childish and immature.  Sure, giving an explanation might be awkward, but it is part of being an honest, decent person.

If explanations are given that have no resolution, then two people go their separate ways.  End of story.  But there's no need to be secretive about suddenly not wanting to be friends with someone.

I, frankly, think people who do that do it because they don't want to cut off that relationship.  It's like they don't like someone, but they're not sure whether they might have a use for that person in the future.  So they just ignore the person so that in the future, if they need them, they can just give some BS excuse like they were busy.

Back to the OP, just ask her.  Get closure and move on.  And at the least, if you ask her directly, she can't come back later and try to use you.

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You can think I'm crappy. My reasoning was I thought SHE was crappy but really, that's my problem, not hers. I don't expect her to change those things about herself just because I don't like them. So I just distanced myself. She finally asked why, I told her, and she didn't like what she heard and wanted to argue why I was wrong. It was a waste of time. [/quote]

I think you're changing your story, PP.  First, you say she "pushed and pushed" for an explanation, and then you say she "finally asked why."  The former sounds like you strung her along, the latter doesn't.  Which is it?[/quote]

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