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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again. FWIW, my grandparents never had baby rooms for me, my siblings and cousins and they were still great. All of that stuff was on my parents. [b]Is this a new babyboomer thing or something?[/[/b]quote]

I don't know if it is a babyboomer thing or not but it sounds to me like your mom's friends who have grandkids over all the time are part of the reason for her wanting to have a baby room.  My mom has two very good friends who take care of their grandkids before and after school and (since the kids are still in pre-K and lower elementary school) they each have two car seats in their cars all the time.  My mother, who has a FT job, insisted that she needed to get two car seats to have in her car for the times when she is babysitting my kids.  She does help with the kids as much as she can but certainly not everyday and when there are occassions where she is taking both kids with her, she can always borrow my car.  There is NO reason for her to have two car seats in her car at all times when she really only drives them around MAYBE 10-15 times a year.  And again, she could use my car during those times (I take the train to work and we have two cars).  She also has a room at her house that is full of toys, a toddler bed in one bedroom, etc, etc even though the kids only sleep there a half a dozen times a year.

I think for my mom, she would love to be the kind of grandma that could be around the kids all the time but she can't afford to retire yet so she has no other choice.  It kills her that she can't be like her friends so if she can't do what they are doing, she can at least have the "room" that makes her feel like she is one of them.  So, while it may not make logistical sense to you, it makes her feel better and really doesn't cause you any harm.  Let her do what makes her happy and try to visit when you can--if nothing else, they can watch your baby while you and DH go to the restaurants that you don't like by yourself.[/quote]

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