Reply to Holding Baby

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Holding Baby"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]OP here. She is not local but was planning to come my entire hospital stay and plant in my hospital room. My husband talked with her and I think we have found a happy medium to have her come to see baby in hospital on birth day and day after and then come back two weeks after. I wish she were more of a comfort and a help but she is not. Please understand that I am not overprotective or a nervous Nellie or anti-MIL, nor am I threatened. I would love to have a close relationship and have tried. She is just self-absorbed and unhelpful and we don't connect on any plane. In the 9 plus years I have been her daughter-in-law she has never once been a helpful or supportive presence to my husband or me. Believe me, I am lucky to have a wonderful mother, SIL, and aunt who are local and are lined up to pinch-hit and will relieve me when I need to nap. They will also bring in dinner and will clean up after themselves and can have at baby for snuggles and holding. My MIL, on the other hand, will not do any of this. When I say all she wants to do is hold the baby I mean it literally. I saw her do it a couple short years ago with my SIL, a sweet girl who was in tears in her hospital room because MIL wouldn't leave to let her breastfeed or even when the doctor came in. She has an obsessive need to hold that I have never before seen. It is all she focuses on or talks about. To the PP who asked what else she would say...well...how about I can't wait to see baby, how are you feeling, what can I do to help you before/during/after, isn't this a cute outfit, are you nervous/tired...I could go on and on. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics