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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids know the rule: If you want to go to college, you have to pay for it.

Oldest worked her ass off at school and got a full ride to a good college, second worked 40hrs/week during summers starting 9th grade and had part time jobs during the school year and is paying essentially out of pocket + a few scholarships. Youngest one is currently a sophomore and relying on loans plus a little saved up over her high school career.

Our kids knew that they had to do the work to get jobs. Some parents can "hire" their kid at their own company, but we couldn't, and wouldn't. Some might see it as mean or bad parenting, but you have to realize that we won't be able to pay for their first house, or their wedding, or their graduate school. If we pay for their college, they never will learn to pull their own way. They will expect us to bail out their bad decisions. And if DD1 couldn't find a job over the summer and needed a bit more money, we would probably loan her a bit (with interest) as we know she is a hardworking adult who will pay us back.

I see parents paying for their kids to go to college, and it makes me sad. Those are kids who will never truly be independent. We could pay for college for our kids, but we decided that it was not our jobs. [/quote]

This seems very harsh. My family paid for my undergrad and I'm now paying for my grad school. Which I will attend alone, in a foreign country, at 22. Clearly my parents failed in teaching me independence.

As for op, this sounds pretty similar to my summers during high school. Most years I would do theatre (which went on to become my major), and volunteer in the elementary summer school class my mother taught. One year I traveled abroad with people to people (in lieu of all Christmas/birthday presents from all family members that year) and one year I took a summer school class so that I could take an additional ap class during the school year. I'd also babysit when I could. I'd say I averaged about 20-30 productive hours a week. I frequently tried to nail down a more concrete job, but none ever came to fruition. [/quote]

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