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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, but if concerned pay directly to the apartment complex or attorney.[/quote]

This.

No cash goes into her hands or her accounts.

Your later posts, OP, indicate more with each post that you judge her choices as being poor, she doesn't do details well, you are afraid she's going to come back for more, etc. What started out sounding like a pretty direct situation -- nasty divorce, he has access to funds for legal help to screw her, she has no access to funds to fight back -- sounds more complicated when you add in your concerns about her and money. Understandable but I would try not to let my judgments about her choices get in the way if she needs real and immediate help.

I would offer to pay a certain amount (paid only directly to an attorney or whatever). If you fear she is going to lose custody of her kids and be otherwise royally screwed by her husband in this divorce, do you feel comfortable letting that happen for lack of legal advice if she can't afford an attorney on her own?

Yes, she might ask for more later, but as you note -- she hasn't done this before. Be clear that the funds are limited to a specific purpose and there are no more after a certain dollar amount. And do it as a GIFT, not a loan, or you set yourself up for years of judging and blaming her (a road you're already on, to an extent) if she doesn't pay you back. If you cannot make it a gift -- help her apply for legal aid, or help her get to a local Women's Center that assists women with problems like this, etc. Help her somehow, even if it's not monetarily.[/quote]

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