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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many cheaters want to "double dip" both the spouse and the lover.  These cheaters want to have everything - not dividing martial assets during the divorce, not paying child support, security and comfort of having a family & the fun and excitement with the lover.  In addition, having affairs is a great ego boost.

For many of us, it is human nature to "take advantages" of others.  [b]It is up to us to accept being taken advantages of![/b].

If the spouse has to blame the lover, please blame the cheater as well.  Quite often, the cheaters lie to the lovers that they stay in the marriages because of the children, their spouses are bad ...  Actually, I think the spouse should blame the cheater more than the lover in many cases.

"It is [u]up to us to accept being taken advantages of[/u]![/quote]

It's the cheating spouse that acts on impulse, but also plots and schedules time away from the family -- leaving the kids with cheated-on-spouse, spending time and money in the process. Think about it. Cheating spouse has to take several steps: 1, meet someone; 2, plan to cheat; 3, find a place to cheat; 4, come back to spouse and lie. Blame the spouse who put all that work into cheating in the first place.[/quote]

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