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[quote=Anonymous]I actually disagree on the separate accounts and budget part. I've never been divorced though, so take it for what it's worth. The transition from "me" to "us" isn't keeping things separate. At least it wasn't for us. Maybe that doesn't work for everyone. OP, you do have to put your foot down. "We" make choices and decisions. Of course family can visit, but "we" decide when and how. It's "our" house. If money gets spent "we" decide how and when because it's "our" money. Sit down and start talking about long range plans and what you want to spend your money on. Do you want to save up for something? New furniture or a new car? A dinner out or a trip to an amusement park? Whatever you decide is fine. Then if a brother wants to borrow money for instance there is a discussion about how much you can lend before you can still buy that car or take that trip. Or if a family member wants to visit maybe he can't until you get back from your trip. You have to check your family calendar. What is your work calendar and the school calendar? You are a FAMILY now. Start talking about that and it will help. [/quote]

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