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[quote=Anonymous]OP, this may help with the money part.  I would make a detailed budget with your husband.  Figure out your income each month and divide it all up into different categories (rent/mortgage, utilities, savings, YOUR "play" money, HIS "play money, emergency fund, etc).  The rule in our family is if my husband is using his allotted money (which we actually put into separate accounts so there's no questions about who used it), then he can do anything he wants with it.  If he wants to give it to his brother that's great but it means he might not be able to go out to lunch with his friends or buy new clothes or whatever.  This has allowed us to have freedom within our marriage since I know he won't question my purchases and me his.
You're husband might also benefit from the idea of not agreeing/offering anything right away.  Listen to family and friends' problems and then brainstorm ideas (alone or with you), discuss options with you and then call them back the next day.  When I was younger I would feel pressured into offering help right away and it definitely was good for me to realize that I should slept on it one night before committing my time and resources.

If my DH's siblings needed to stay with us for a little while, that wouldn't be a problem if we have the room but I would like to know what the end plan was (save money for 1 month to get their own place, move in with his parents eventually, etc)

I would also heed what other PPs have said about setting boundaries so that your husband doesn't walk all over you.  You may not want to hear it, but it could be true and save you lots of heartache in the future.[/quote]

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