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[quote=Anonymous]Ha, the way you describe your DH reminds me of mine.  He KNOWS that he should consult you, and that's why he gets pissy when you call him on it.  Does he make naughty puppy eyes when he does it?  :)  That's actually a good sign because he realizes he's doing the wrong thing, he's just in the process of figuring out how to manage his new life.

This is a learning curve, and you just have to keep on having this discussion with him. The most important thing is to not let it turn into a hurtful fight.  You do have to keep on standing up for yourself (which includes getting angry), but be careful not to turn it into a "you always fuck up" kind of thing.  That's not very productive.

Boundaries aren't created overnight by a couple.  Despite the nomenclature, you can't actually just draw a line and refuse to ever have it crossed by anyone.  It's a learning process.  Your DH has to come to trust that you share his value of support and loyalty to family, and you have to come to trust that DH will always work with you to make sure your needs are met and that you come first.  [/quote]

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