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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, this makes me sad.  Part of being a parent is watching your kids be completely inept at certain things and awesome at others, or just mediocre.  As long as she doesn't care and wants to be in the recital, you've got to let her do it.

My kid is 4.5 and has been taking dance since she was 2.  She's pretty terrible, but man, does she enjoy herself.  Every recital that comes along (4x a year), my friends and I place bets on what particular thing she will do wrong this time.  Will she: (a) show everyone her underpants? (2) Announce to everyone something really embarrassing? (3) run to hug me in the middle of class? (4) be completely off in every single routine?

Thing is, she is awesome comic relief for the other parents.  There is a lot of chuckling when she does her thing.  how could I deprive them of that?  I know she's only 4, but I anticipate lots of years of clueless bad dancing.  We are not a dancing family.  Luckily we have other skills.  As I'm sure your daughter does.[/quote]

The thing is - what is cute at 4.5 is no longer cute at age 9 - nor is it cute to the parents watching.

As far as  helping at home, she has been practicing at home and seems to know the steps while working on it alone but the problem seems to be on timing and working with others.  And yes, I am concerned about the other girls because my DD almost collided with one today and knocked her over. This wasn't funny or cute and there was no laughing by anyone.

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Musician here again. I guarantee you are blowing whatever happened today out of proportion because you are nervous about how it will feel to be the parent of the girl who cant dance very well.  You have to get past this.  She made mistakes in class and she will probably make less in the recital but pulling her out for making mistakes and even messing others up in a rehearsal is idiotic in my opinion.  People make mistakes in rehearsals every day and this is actually what they are for - to tell us where we need to do better, to alert us as to who needs more help and support, and to teach us how we can better cover for them or be preventative so that the presentation as a whole is still great.  If the teacher hasnt told you she is destroying the experience for everyone else than you need to buck up and support your daughter.

I have played in countless concerts in groups over the past 4 decades and there is always someone who is weaker - this is to be expected.  And it isnt a crime.  It is normal - even in the highest levels of performance if you have 5 people in a group, there will be one who is weakest and makes the others have to work harder to keep the presentation up.  This is expected and nobody makes anyone feel badly for it - it just IS.  If the kids are upset, the teacher will re direct them and explain some version of what I just stated.  [/quote]

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