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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I have (or have had) a very close relationship with my parents and we spend a lot of time with them so they see the best and worst of my husband.  He's got some issues but we're working on them in therapy (they don't know this).  He can be moody and short tempered, especially when he gets overwhelmed by my mother's interference and anxiety.  But he's got a lot of wonderful qualities too - super smart, funny and warm.  They choose to "worry" about his personality deficits to me endlessly and no amount of reassuring them seems to stop it. [b] I think I need to put my foot down, say no more complaining about him to me, and they can either choose to appreciate his many, many good qualities or stop spending time with us.  It's just so hard to have this conversation[/b]![/quote]

"Mom, I love you and value our relationship. And I love Bob with all my heart and soul. This is the man I chose to spend my life with. Like me, he is not perfect. But he makes me perfectly happy. When you make critical comments about him, you are only hurting me and our relationship. If you choose to criticize him, I will end our time time together. If we're on the phone, I'll let you know that the conversation is over and then hang up. If we're in a restaurant, I'll pay my portion and excuse myself. If you're here in our home, I'll either ask you to leave or I'll leave. We'll try again the next time we're together. I love this man and I will not tolerate you or anyone else disrespecting him or our marriage."

Be a woman and stand up for your man. There are a thousand posts here on DCUM about MILs who trash their DILs. It's the husband's job to stand up for his woman. Your husband's MIL is trashing him. It's YOUR job to stand up for him. Do it today.

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I love this![/quote]

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