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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Yes, I made mistakes by not holding her more accountable during the school year.  The problem is she has been coasting this year.  Other than her foreign language classes, she hardly ever studies for tests and manages to get A's in math and science(her strong subjects), and B's in everything else.  The problem has been not turning in HW or doing projects and she gest F's and now she has enough where all A grades are now B's and B's are now C's.  If she bombs finals, hopefully they don't count so much where she will fail the course for the year.  The summer job helping me financially, I just meant for her school clothes and summer extra fun.  Not to pay any household bills.  She very much know how strongly I feel about her grades and digs her heels in and thinks she is hurting me by not performing.  Anyway, I will tell her that electronics are off during study time and we will go from there.  Thanks![/quote]

I'm the PP who said you can't win a power struggle and thats exactly what it sounds like.  Her grades sound fine, actually.  But the dynamic you've created over them sounds unhealthy.[/quote]

I totally agree.  I think you need to back off a little here (perhaps a lot).  She'll be upset about her own grades - you don't need to be upset for her.  Ask her what she thinks would help, and try to help her do it.  I doubt cracking down on her will help - probably only push her away more.  You don't sound very supportive (or your support is misplaced).[/quote]

OP here.  Yes, maybe I do need to back off, but the truth is I want her out of my house in 3 years and off to college, military...somewhere :).  She doesn't seem to "get it" that for every low grade that she receives it is closing more college doors and lessening her options.  I want her to have real options, not going to community college because she let her grades tank.  As for being supportive, I'm not exactly sure what you mean by that.  I help her study or do projects whenever she asks; sometimes I insist on studying with her because I'm not positive her studying techniques are sufficient.  I allow her to follow her "dreams"..she dances competitively, play instruments, and participates in sports.  Any extracurricular she wants to do, I try to make it happen (within reason).  I am her biggest fan and cheerleader.  I've gone to every single dance competition, recital, meet/game.  I just want her to do better in her school work (sigh).[/quote]

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