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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you ever told them as much?

Another option is to respond in a way that shuts them down.

Parents: Why did you buy that POS used car?
You: We're happy with our decision. What would you like for dinner?

Parents: You should be buying a house at your age.
You: We're happy with our decision on where we live. What would you like for dinner?

Repeat..[/quote]

Tried that. Never works. These are people who when they lock on something and want their way, forget it. The roof could cave in and they'd still stay on topic. Based on past experiences, they'd just accuse me of trying to change the subject. [/quote]

OP, I understand that you've tried the shut-down approach but keep trying(unless you really are OK with the possible lifetime alternative of just cutting them out of your world). You say "they'd just accuse me of trying to change the subject." Great! That's your opening to turn to them, smile a huge smile and say, "Yes! You're right, I am changing the subject because that subject is now closed -- decision made, best one for us. Now, what do you want for dinner?" Or "Whatever happened with that neighbor of yours?" or "How is your dog?" or whatever else you know to ask about them. Repeat. And repeat. They are trying to wear you down; you have to wear them down first. Like young children they need to learn that they do not get the reward of your attention if they do the thing you don't like. Arguing with them, engaging their concerns with any discussion, or scolding them for being, well, jerks, is still giving them attention. So: Shut down with short "we're happy" comment, change topic, listen like crazy and ask follow-ups on their answers so they can't get in another word about YOU as they talk about themselves. Repeat.

It's like dealing with children -- remove attention instantly when behavior is bad, and/or distract and redirect.

Isn't it ridiculous to have to deal with adults in that way?!

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