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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Before we had kids, we used to spend holidays alternating between my family and my ILs. After we had kids, we no longer travelled for the holidays, Everyone understood that things change after you have kids. There's no way I'd put up with the conditions you're talking about - my mom has hoarding tendancies but at least hers is organized and there aren't any animals.[/quote] OP again- this is exactly what we used to do - alternate between our parents' homes. I'm glad to hear that we're not being unreasonable expecting things to change now that we're starting a family. I wish that counseling was an option but any time you mention it, or helping my mom clean or anything at all, she simply shuts down. Oh, and re: PP comments about smoking: my dad smokes too so there's also that to contend with! [b]Last Christmas we had a choice between a bedroom that smelled of cat urine or a bedroom that reeked of secondhand smoke where my dad would use the computer.[/b] I believe we left around 5am the next morning. Miserable. I appreciate all of the comments and feedback. It's reassuring to know that we are not the ones being unreasonable here in our expectations.[/quote] I just want to say that your DH must be pretty awesome and supportive. I drew the line years ago as my MIL is a hoarder and SIL/BIL's house is gross - full of fish, turtles, ferrets, hamsters, cats, and dogs. We get a hotel room in town and the nieces come over to swim in the indoor pool. Daytime visiting in the inlaws' houses work for us - but no overnights ever again.[/quote]
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