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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I have hoarders in my family, luckily not my parents, but it is rough and there is little you can do.  I imagine you have done some research, and I think I would at least check out the rules about animals for their state/county/town.

What you need to do is sit down with your husband and perhaps a counselor and figure out what you are and aren't willing to do.  For instance...

You might not be willing to: ever bring your child into the house in its current condition, visit as frequently as you have, celebrate the holidays in your parents' hometown.

You might be willing to: support your parents in researching treatment options, encourage them in treatment and attend a session with a counselor on your next visit, help them clean for a weekend once you're able to leave the baby at home with his/her father, visit 1-2 times per year and stay in a hotel and visit there and other places, pay for your parents to come to you for a regular visit or the holidays.

One or both of your parents has an illness, an untreated illness that they won't acknowledge.  You are making some accommodations because they're sick, but you have to draw some boundaries because they won't seek treatment for it.

And then you have to worry about your own mental health, as these things run in families.  For that alone, it might be worth some time with a counselor.[/quote]

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