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[quote=Anonymous]I understand your frustrations a lot.  My sister is very similar in some ways.  She does have OCD and depression, which adds to the problem.  My mom has always felt guilty about how my sister turned out because she thinks she did something wrong.  My mom had a long term disease and the stress caused by my sister's choices in life just added to things.  To alleviate that stress I allowed my sister to move in with me.  
Before she moved in I ended up packing everything for her because the day before the moving company was coming for her stuff she had only packed one box that I had "forced" her to pack two weeks before.  I packed everything while she sat on her bed talking to her friends online.  She didn't understand why I was mad and frustrated.  To make it better I was "mean" because I was making her feel guilty.  Oh I had also taken a day off of work to pack her and in addition to that I had previously wasted an entire weekend throwing away the garbage from her room, which consisted of 17 bags of garbage.  She isn't a hoarder, she is just lazy.  Most of the garbage was bags from fast food places that were either empty or still had some food left.  
In addition to all of this I found out that she hadn't paid a ton of credit card bills and is still being chased around by collection agencies.  I helped to pay some of them off, which too away my LASIK eye surgery fund.  
When my irst mortgage payment came up, my sister lost her job because she had taken too much time off of work and would also get to work too late when she did go, this is after I kept telling her that she needed to be careful to not lose her job, especially in this economy.  Instead of going to work she would stay up all hours of the night talking to her friends online, the same friends who have been cruel to her and at one point had made a website with a countdown to her suicide, which landed her in a hospital a few years ago.
I have paid too much money towards her life.  While I work my butt off she stays at home sleeping all day only to wake up and chat online and look up new jobs on occasion.  Then when I get home she wants to know what is for dinner or if I to her anything or can you go and get my medicine from Walgreens.  If I say yes or no with any negative tone, then I am mean or a heartless bitch.  
Recently I told her if she doesn't get a job or start paying rent and helping with bills, etc then she needs to move out and can no longer stay.  I need to gt my own life back together.  She of course said I was cruel and now she has that hanging over her head and she is soooooooo stressed out.  I love my sister but I am getting to the point where I don't care about her problems.  She needs to grow up.  She is almost 40 years old.  
She owes me over $5,000 at this time.  Part of that is for her rent, but ost of it has been for her credit card debt, medication, and for the bed I bought for her.  I figure when I kick her out, since she probably won't change, I will just have to recover my own losses.  I am just sick of the fact tht she hasn't unpacked a single thing in the past 6 months and doesn't understand why I get mad when there are dirty dishes in her room and trash on the floor.  I won't even get started on her bathroom.  Anyway from one frustrated person to another, don't feel bad.  You are a great person for helping a sibling and you need to concentrate on your own life and just let things roll.  It sounds like you have tried all you can to help, but sometimes we need to let it all go, even when it is extremely unfair.  
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