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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You will discover as your life goes on that sometimes "family" is not the cut and dry representation you've been taught to believe. There are deaths and divorces, drugged up relatives, abusive relatives, cross country moves, etc. You should never exclude someone who actively participates in yours or your child's lives.

My mother died 22 years ago. My aunt is my Momma. She didn't give birth to me, but I certainly send her a card, tell her how much she means to me, etc. My father remarried and I resisted the Stepmom relationship for years. We get along well though, so I send her a card as well to make her feel included. Her mother acted as a grandmother and I also send her a card.

When I moved away from my family, I built a new one. My "brothers" are a bunch of guys who looked out for me. My "sisters" are the couple girls I could actually get along with. I am their children's "Aunt." I have aunts and uncles that are my parents best friends from childhood as well.

Think about this quote:
"[b]Family isn't always blood.[/b] It's the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and who love you no matter what."

[b]Just because she isn't your mom, doesn't mean she can't be grandma to your kids. [/b]She clearly loves them and does good things for them. It would be a shame for your children to lose someone like that because you can't get over sending her a card to make her feel welcome in the family.
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OP here... Again, I think you misunderstand my question.  I've bolded the parts that I think don't apply to me.  I never said she wasn't a grandma to my kids - she is absolutely a grandma - my question is - does grandma get a mother's day gift (in our situation, my dad would give me a hard time if it's just a card - need to give flowers or something too).

Anyway, you all are right - better to err on the side of kindness; it isn't a big deal to give her something and it would be much more hurtful to stop now - and I really don't want to be hurtful - but seriously, it really does feel weird sending this woman something on mother's day.  [/quote]

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