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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For the women who are abrasive and/or are saying don't change, I have a question:

Does this apply to black women?

IME, black women who are surly/abrasive are given the dreaded "angry black woman" title? How do you think this differs from your personality?

I'm genuinely curious in how these two things are viewed differently, based on race. [/quote]

I am not a black woman, but I am a South-Asian woman. Whenever I speak up about anything to certain members of my family and community, assert my opinion or belief, I get called "angry." Culturally, women in South Asian communities are expected to be passive and not very assertive. It's amazing how much culture alters "acceptable" or "normal" behavior for women. Depending on the communities and cultures I engage with, I'm called strong, vocal, assertive, confident, and determined - or angry, abrasive, disruptive, aggressive, or negative. At the same time, nothing about me changes - I am who I am, as I am, just being myself. [/quote]

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