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[quote=Anonymous]12:27 has the best advice.

I was this way and I took a communication class and there was a section on how to be assertive instead of aggressive.

It's a good thing to read about - google - assertive vs. agressive.

Also, read about "You" vs. "I" statements (this will help if you are married also) :-)

Here is the difference:
You need to have the report on my desk by  4pm. 
I have to turn the report in by 5pm so I will need it by 4pm so I can review it.

In addition, there is something about wanting to be "right". If you are trying to prove your point in a meeting - or trying to prove you are "right" you can come off as "self-righteous".

You should be able to voice your opinion and listen to other peoples opinions and see there is some value in both.

But, if you spend the whole meeting trying to prove the other opinion or way of doing something is "wrong" to ensure your opinion is "right" - that is being "self-righteous". Somebody does not have to be wrong for you to be right.

When I was in my 20's I could not do this nor did I see the value. Now I do it and I see the value.[/quote]

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