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[quote=Anonymous]To OP, I am sorry to hear that you have troubles with your husband's family.  But....the key is what is best for your BABY?  To spend the whole day with some unrelated nanny who may or may not be in your child's life in 6 months or with loving grandparents and relatives?  I am a former nanny, and I did (and still do) love the kids I tended.  I am still in contact with them.  However, a grandparent's relationship with your child is completely different.  As long as your relatives are loving toward your child, you should be thrilled that your baby will have their extra love and attention while you and your husband are at work.

I think you are most miffed with the idea that your household boundaries are not respected.  I do agree that you need to set boundaries, and I would be really annoyed, too.  However, your husband needs to be the one to talk to HIS family.  Ask him to handle this for you.  Maybe the solution is to have them visit only in the morning hours until your baby goes down for an afternoon nap.  Have your husband limit their staying for dinner to maybe 2 times a month.   Or maybe have the nanny meet the relatives at a park/playground....outside of your home.

I, too, would be annoyed with them rearranging my things.  Are they doing this out of spite, or are they just not putting things back in the proper place because they don't think it really matters(for example, putting wipes and diapers back in a different spot?)  Maybe you could just provide a basket of supplies for them to use and ask them to put the supplies back in the basket when they are done.  You could also just put away anything that you don't want messed with.

Good luck.[/quote]

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