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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who will be doing the teasing? What kind of exhibitionist whore will you be raising?[/quote] Op here- that's pretty funny! Also, as a pp claimed, I am not a troll, and think it's kind of weird that posters are always calling troll on controversial topics. Anyway, I will probably just circ since my husband feels its the obvious choice, but if it were up to me, I wouldn't. Thanks for all the input- and I noticed after I posted a lot of circ posting on the forum... I guess it's a concern for many.[/quote] Anymore, most people are either indifferent (doing it just because of perceived social pressure) or radically opposed. Those who vehemently fight FOR circ tend to be trolls....many of the posts here fall into that category (you can spot them from the foul, crass language and ridiculous fake stories, ie "my son dribbles! help!"). Anyway, of all the stories I have ever read about families that choose circ for one boy but not for another, I have never heard of a case where it was regretted. If a child asks you a question about it, it is very easy to say "doctors used to recommend it, and now they don't" and help each child feel good about themselves. For a relatively short period of their lives, your children are part of your nuclear family, but then they go on to live many adult years without ever (I promise!) thinking about the genitals of their siblings. In many families, boys never even see their brothers penises after age 4 or 5 or so. (I can't remember EVER seeing my siblings genitals, even though I'm sure we bathed together as toddlers). Even things that are plainly obvious (say, like noses) are usually not cause for too much concern; siblings tend to realize that they are not going to look identical to each other. Ultimately good parents tend to be positive about all of their children's physical attributes, even when they wind up being different, and work to discourage any teasing about such things. The bottom line is that when parents know better, they do better. Imagine explaining to your adult son that you knew that there was no need to circumcise by the time he was born, yet you did it just to conform him to his brothers. THAT is what will seem ridiculous to him. ("WHAT, you cut of part of my penis so that I would match my BROTHER?! We aren't talking about cute matching Ralph Lauren polo shirts here, MOM!") For what its worth, my sons don't match my husband -- and neither my sons (or my husband, lol) have been traumatized by the experience. In fact, I don't think my boys, who have actually seen DH naked plenty of times, have ever noticed the difference.[/quote]
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