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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't blame you for feeling upset.  What I find somewhat distasteful is the way you discount her reasons for getting pregnant (she went off the pill because it ruined her skin -- is that not a valid reason for wanting to go off the pill?  she continued to have sex -- oh my god, what a whore!  She didn't want to spend the money on an IUD -- so what?)

OP, stop marginalizing her.  It's okay to feel uncomfortable around her but[b] it's not okay to depict her as some kind of valueless dingbat tightwad trollop[/b].[/quote]

Well, she certainly sounds like one.  It may be true.  You're rationalizing completely irresponsibel behavior (refusal to go on birth control for questionable reasons, plus continued unprotected sex) that led to an unnecessary abortion.  Even that most ardent pro-choice people (and I include myself in that group) can look down their noses at that.

OP, I don't blame you for being upset, and I'd have a hard time being around her.  You may want to try to work on wishing that bad things happen to her, though.  That won;t do anyone any good, and may cause you to feel very bad if they DO have trouble conceiving.  [/quote]

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