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[quote=Anonymous]This is OP - I feel like I am learning so much about myself reading your responses, thank you! I honestly thought I had myself figured out, but I keep reading and thinking "yep, I do this, and that". I never thought of myself as a take-charge person, but over the last few years at least, I do feel like I need to take on the responsibility, to make sure stuff gets done. I guess I have lost confidence that DH can handle things without being reminded 10 times. Some of this is his fault, some of it is mine for enabling it, and some of it is just in my head. He is a perfectly capable, smart and kind individual.  I have often thought - the only other person I can fully trust is my mother, the older I get the more I appreciate her. I know that's nuts. I guess I am more like her than I ever imagined, even in my relationship with DH.

I do internalize a lot, and feel guilty about a lot. For example, DH really needed to take some shirts to the cleaners' for a meeting the next day. He couldn't do it because he leaves the house too early. I was supposed to do it, but in the upset over our fight, I forgot. Today I realized that he probably went to his meeting with a dirty shirt, and I feel awful. I can't even do this, what kind of wife am I? These are pretty common thoughts for me. I either feel like a bad wife, or a bad mother, or usually both.

The thought of PPD has occurred to me more than a few times. I went through a similar period after my first child was born, it coincided with going back to work, so I thought it was more stress than depression. I was able to pull myself out of it exactly with focusing on positive things, thoughts of gratitude etc. I am not succeeding this time though...

Anyway, this is already starting to feel way too self-indulgent of a post, thanks for reading, and offering advice. I truly found it very helpful and it has given me a lot to think about![/quote]

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