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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"are you OP's husband by chance?"

No, I'm a divorced mom co-parenting with my ex.  I did say she should send a clear email setting out boundaries.  But if the trip is booked, and the kids will be reasonably happy, or at least safe, there's no need to go crazy.  She's going to have to learn to manage her ex without running to court, or threatening to.  That's going to take time, and trial and error.  Might as well start now.[/quote]

Or, she will learn to manage her ex by running to court repeatedly until it sinks into his knucklehead that he needs to respect her.  What he did was highly egregious in my part, and shows a pathological disrespect for boundaries.  Good obedience to custody orders makes for good co-parenting.  There's plenty of time to have an easy-breezy co-parenting in years to come once he understands and respects his former spouse.[/quote]

Repeated trips to court leads to further conflict drawn out over time and financial ruin. It isn't always in the best interest of the kids - acrimonious custody battles that go on for a decade can cause irreparable harm to kids.  Running back to court every time you are unhappy becomes a game on both sides. Save court for when it is really needed - a safety issue, something causing harm to the kids, ongoing pattern of breaching the agreement etc... one can create boundaries and be assertive without running to court every other week.  [/quote]

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