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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.

[quote=Anonymous]Only you can decide what kind of family you have.[/quote]
See, that's the thing.  We can't decide what kind of family we have... they seem to walk the line and we can't tell when they are going to go bat shit crazy.

[quote=Anonymous]I think you should sit down with your parents without your spouse and ask them if their offer still stands.[/quote]
Oh hell no.  If they can't say it in front of both of us, etc (it's definitely not that they would have reservations about DH, etc.  They know I handle the $$ and am the brains of the org, lol).  Also, I tend to cave, give in, not stand up for myself, in short become backwards-me, when my parents lose their mind.  DH needs to be present so that I stay focused.

[quote=Anonymous]MIL loaned us part of our downpayment, and has been generous and hands-off.[/quote]
My IL's would totally do this to, only they would do it as an outright gift... I know them.  I know they have provided substantial support to B/SIL and are very big on "equality" amongst the sibs.  However, they are also big sticklers for ettiquette, not meddling, etc and I think they are worried they will offend us by offering us  money.  DH and I have had a very big "we did this on our own dammit" kick-ass attitude.  Not in a bad way, but in a point-of-pride way.  And I really don't want to ASK them, because my dear sweet MIL has the loosest lips this side of the Mississippi, and the entire familiy would know in about 15 minutes.

[quote=Anonymous]They are asking for a place to live with you to which they would contribute, not offering you money. Of course they will have a say in picking the house etc.[/quote]
I think there's a 50-50 shot that this is their attitude, which is what bothers me.  Also, that it will imply that my mother is welcome to come house hunting with me.  Ummm, no.  I cannot spend 24 consecutive hours in her presence under the best of circumstances, and house hunting is far from ideal.[/quote]

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