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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 46 and have literally never met anyone like this, OP. I've lived in Europe and the US, and attended grade schools and universities in multiple countries. I know some comments can be interpreted in many different ways, and I always choose to take what people say ina. constructive manner.

If this keeps happening to you... consider you might be part of the problem, as in: you always gravitate towards the same toxic personalities, or you interpret innocuous comments in negative ways, or you actively do things to warrant criticism. Probably mostly #2, wouldn't you say?

Most people are kind and tolerant. Some of high-strung but well-meaning and definitely not looking to bully anyone. I'm willing to believe a few are bullies... but I haven't met anyone who goes out of their way to be mean. 
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Not OP but is this comment meant as a specific troll? I can never tell with stuff like this. Are you expressing your real opinion on the subject or did you sit down to write a post that would embody exactly the sort of not chill, not nice OP is referring to?

The part where you accuse OP, a person you do not know at all, of something you couldn't possibly know about her with "Probably mostly #2, wouldn't you say?" (unreal condescension there), but then claim "most people are kind and tolerant"? Chef's kiss, so perfect.

If this was a joke, well done. If it was in earnest, ugh.[/quote]

PP you replied to. I was being honest, because on DCUM, this is what helps people to change and better themselves. If I met you face to face, I would be more diplomatic. I am generally seen as a polite, gentle person, because I am petite, non-threatening and have a soft voice :-) None of those physical attributes come across online.

And no, I was not being condescending in any way. I genuinely suspect that OP tends to take things too personally, because this is usually what happens.

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Well then please let me return the favor: yes, your post was condescending. OP didn't say "this keeps happening to me" or even go into any detail about what she is experiencing. But you jumped right into this authoritative position of telling her what her problem must be, and you said it in a very condescending way.

Also why would living in Europe or your college or grad (I'm assuming that was a typo) experiences be relevant? OP was specifically talking about experiences with fellow moms, almost certainly in the US. I'm sure your study abroad experience was very valuable to you but I'm not sure it will provide you with any extra insight into the experience of the average middle-age American mom.[/quote]

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