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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 46 and have literally never met anyone like this, OP. I've lived in Europe and the US, and attended grade schools and universities in multiple countries. I know some comments can be interpreted in many different ways, and I always choose to take what people say ina. constructive manner.

If this keeps happening to you... consider you might be part of the problem, as in: you always gravitate towards the same toxic personalities, or you interpret innocuous comments in negative ways, or you actively do things to warrant criticism. Probably mostly #2, wouldn't you say?

Most people are kind and tolerant. Some of high-strung but well-meaning and definitely not looking to bully anyone. I'm willing to believe a few are bullies... but I haven't met anyone who goes out of their way to be mean. 
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Agree with this.  I'm 40, was bullied in 7th grade but thankfully that's it.  Do some moms not want to be friends?  Sure.  That's life. I don't expect everyone to want to be friends with me.  Are they rude or mean?  Not at all.  Here are some things to consider:

It's not bullying for people to not want to be friends with you or to hang out with you.  If a group of moms say hi and are polite, but don't invite you to join their friend group, that's not bullying. 
Sometimes when you're insecure, you can be drawn to toxic personalities because they can seem to be the most outgoing and fun 
Sometimes when you're insecure, you can present yourself in a way that can be off putting to others.  I've definitely BTDT.  [/quote]

+1 to both of these PPs.  OP, if you're seeing this everywhere, consider that you are the common element.  Either in how you are perceiving the situation or in how you're coming across to people.  [/quote]

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