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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here again.  For those of you who have been through this, did you agree with your spouse about a split that was different than what the law would allow?  My husband and I were fully formed adults with our careers established when we met.  [b]He has always been very clear that his money is his and mine is mine. [/b] I’m wondering if he’d agree to leave my retirement alone.

I’ll use my inheritance to pay for all the kid-related stuff.  Grandparent has fully funded the 529 already.  I just hope to walk away, each with our own savings since we approached that aspect so differently.  So really, he just has to support himself in his new dream life.

Anyway, maybe that’s a pipe dream and he gets to decide to leave the marriage for his vague “we both deserve to be more deeply in love with our life” reasons and I lose half of what I’ve saved.   Argh.

Anyway, I don’t want to screw him over, and I really want my kid to be ok.  As upset as I am, he’s not a bad guy and I can kind of see him wanting this to be easy and amicable without paying lawyers and whatnot.  Is that crazy?  [/quote]

He's clear on the bolded, until he is not. I learned this the hard way. This process may reveal a side of your spouse that you have never imagined. Protect your own interests aggressively from the outset. [/quote]

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