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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Picking kids up from school is more burdensome if it’s harder for that spouse to leave by a certain time (something that both my spouse and I struggle with). Also, with younger children, pickup potentially takes longer (need to go into school to pick up kid
Etc).

Drop off is a piece of cake. You probably don’t even need to get out of the car or go into the school.

Scheduling kids activities and appointments takes more energy than bill pay/ budgeting / investments (most of which is likely automated).

Driving around in the evening is also more exhausting than weekends.

What are the biggest pain points for each spouse?[/quote]

I think scheduling activities is a HUGE energy spend. [b]But I disagree that finances is far behind.  [/b]Money is a leading cause of divorce.  What if one partner is a saver and the other is a spender.  Managing that may not be as simple as "autopay"[/quote]

I'm a DP who said that managing finances is not that big of a deal, and I think you may have a point -- if neither partner has an aptitude or affinity for it, it can be a big time/energy suck.  It's the kind of thing that if you don't like it or majorly mess it up it can be genuinely terrible, but if one partner took it on because it's in their wheelhouse I think it can be as easy as set it and forget it.  I felt like this was the breakdown of a couple where neither like to cook or schlep because those are the only things broken in two right down the middle, and the other jobs were broken up by aptitude.  But that's obviously an assumption.[/quote]

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