Toggle navigation
Toggle navigation
Home
DCUM Forums
Nanny Forums
Events
About DCUM
Advertising
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
FAQs and Guidelines
Privacy Policy
Your current identity is: Anonymous
Login
Preview
Subject:
Forum Index
»
Adult Children
Reply to "Daughter’s Marriage"
Subject:
Emoticons
More smilies
Text Color:
Default
Dark Red
Red
Orange
Brown
Yellow
Green
Olive
Cyan
Blue
Dark Blue
Violet
White
Black
Font:
Very Small
Small
Normal
Big
Giant
Close Marks
[quote=Anonymous]I would feel like you but probably give the 10k anyway if I could afford to. In your shoes, I’d be concerned about whether the engagement is impulsive. If they’ve been together a few years I’d feel better. We don’t stop worrying about our kids just because they graduate college, though we do have to accept their autonomy. You should only provide as much financial support as you comfortably can at this time. If you need to save money by putting some aside each month, you can explain that. Whatever you give, now or later, plan to do the same for all your children. I’m not in a position to contribute a lot for weddings since I have 3 kids so I will be focused on fairness. DH is one of 5. His divorced dad paid for his oldest sister’s college and wedding in full, going into debt. His next 2 sisters didn’t attend college or have weddings. He wasn’t able to help DH or his youngest sibling with college/weddings at all. Fortunately, DH didn’t hold a grudge.[/quote]
Options
Disable HTML in this message
Disable BB Code in this message
Disable smilies in this message
Review message
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
