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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just asking these questions means you’re on the right track.

It will be incredibly difficult to not force him to be aggressive or doing what another kid does. Resist that. And feel free to find him a travel team if he loves it. Close to home is good, because nobody needs to be in the car for hours at that age.  And friends on the team is a bonus. My DC has ADHD and for years spent the first half observing and less involved. But he often finished the game on fire. He’s at the top for his HS age group and it still happens to a degree. Coaches now love it because he’s on at the end of the game, and it’s now simply part of how he plays.  And yet, I still remember years of frustration as the pack of kids (and the run of play) went past him one way, then past him the other. But he kept watching, kept playing l, kept loving it and now his friends want to play like him.

Thing is, you’ll want a coach who has patience for a non-aggressive skilled kid. And you, as a parent have to understand that most of his growth is going to come from practice where he is more dynamic and that he might sit more during games. You’re not just paying for game time- it’s the whole experience. This is important because if he’s watching he might not play much to start. Your son will be ready when he’s ready.  And one day he may surprise you how good he is. [/quote]

Thanks! Yes the club team practices are a 5min drive, sheer luck,  and all games are within an hours drive. It’s so interesting that a couple people have mentioned adhd because my older child and husband both have adhd but more the hyperactive kind. Maybe he has the inattentive kind? Something to keep an eye on I guess!

I do notice that if he makes a great play and scores, he is WAY more active and aggressive for the rest of the game.  Which makes me wonder if part of the hanging back and watching is lack of confidence and lack of knowing what to do. But I do know he’s so little. I’ll let him keep watching half the game and keep my mouth shut since he’s still having fun ![/quote]

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