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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP! I hope this will be helpful. He is really really young and on a rec team probably not getting the best coaching. When he gets to the club team, you’ll be better able to evaluate how he responds to instruction and how coachable he is. It sounds like the club coach saw essential skills and felt that he could teach him the game. This is good news.

My DS went through a lack of confidence when he moved from rec to u9 travel. Like your son he made the top team. The coach told us he liked what he saw because he wasn’t a ball hog and made good passes.  When the fall games started, the coach moved him to the 2nd team (of 3). I was a little concerned but my son didn’t mind. The coach approached me (I never asked) to reassure me that it would be better for his development and that he was a player he hoped would never quit.  He just wanted him to gain confidence. Eventually my son was able to share that he was really afraid to get a card so the coach would pull him out, give him feedback about being more aggressive and put him back in. He was awesome! He never made the kids scared to take risks. The next year’s coach wanted players who were already developed even though the kids were terribly young still. So we learned that to maximize his potential, we needed to find coaches who were a match for his personality. He was recruited to play D3 and now coaches. He has a team of kids your son’s age and he doesn’t judge talent based on goals scored. [/quote
Thanks. I do think he needs the right level. If the kids are a little younger or less skilled and bunch up around the ball, he seems lost and doesn’t know what to do unless he can truly just outrun them all or plow through them all (he can do that against 2-3 kids but not against 8). But I do worry at the top team he made , he’ll lose confidence and not try much in games  he knows someone else on his team can do it better. (He’s one of the few who actually tries to pass or backs off and lets his teammate run with it if the teammate wins the ball). I think I’m just stressed because he loves it so much and I hate to see him lose his love of it just because I don’t know what sort of team is best for him or what he needs from a coach to improve (and he WANTS to improve, ALWAYS. He dribbles a ball around the house and yard nonstop.  But none of us in the family play soccer so I can’t even play against him in the yard and let him learn from me- he is better than me!)[/quote]

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