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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are from a different culture. In our culture, most relationships have a name, and I had never ever heard anybody referring to elders just by their First Names. Even strangers were referred to as Uncle, Auntie, Big Brother, Big Sister, Grandma, Grandpa - based on their age.

My married DD was asked by her MIL-FIL to address them by their First Names. Somehow, I unconsciously cringe each time my DD mentions anything about her MIL or FIL and refers to them by their First Name - I find it shocking and disrespectful. As if I have failed to teach manners to my DD.

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Well that’s weird. She’s following her in-laws preference rather than imposing a cultural custom that’s outside of their comfort zone- surely that’s what someone with good manners would do? [/quote]

Well, why is that weird? Are you yourself not weird and close minded to call my cultural preference weird? LOL.

I am not asking anyone to change or interfering in any way or commenting. So I am not being uncouth and commenting.  But, I am sure in most cultures and around the world, ILs are not referred by first name by DILs and SILs.

IMO - when ILs ask to be called by First Name - it does not convey that these people are friendly, informal, laid back, friendly, approachable or drama-free.  It just shows a lack of clarity about their own role and place in the family.  It is an impediment in relation-building.  But, I would never say anything about it. [/quote]

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