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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is he really tall? Willing to play goalie? Some kids who are really tall aren’t the most athletic when growing so fast but have a lot of potential. [/quote]

he is average height but built solidly. my own kid is skinnier but faster/ more agile, same height.  my kid was a solid second team choice, this is not my own hurt ego or feeling of unfairness about this other kid taking a rightful spot from my kid, my kid will fit in better on the second team.  what's funny though is that my own kid is also in the friend group of the 2 B team kids, the 2 A team kids, and the two cut kids.  I myself did not grow up around here, nor did the parents of the cut kids.  And my husband is not an alpha, social "guy's guy" with the other dads.  He's athletic and tall but introverted and[b] has no interest in playing the suburban dad popularity game. [/b] The parents of the kid who made the A team who should 1000% be an average to low average player on the rec team, both seem to have a lot of social clout.  It really honestly just fascinates me that instead of throwing them a bone and maybe putting their kid on the B team to let them save face, they put him on the A team!  Anyways point taken, I'm naive, and clearly not cut out for the travel soccer world of drama, fingers crossed my kid moves on to a sport where the parents seem less inclined to base their social lives off of what youth sports team their second grader made![/quote]

The kid is probably willing to play GK and no one else will.

Anyway, this phrasing means you and your husband have poor social skills and are probably regarded by others as awkward and weird. There's no such thing as the "suburban dad popularity game." Let me guess, you moved to where you are now from The City?[/quote]

The kid is afraid of the ball and covers his face and ducks when shots come towards him. So, no. And our social skills are fine, we just are not strivers and we have both made friends organically with other parents we get along with. The boys club of dads who grew up in this town and never moved away aren’t interested in bringing my husband into the fold and my husband isn’t interested in being part of a 40 year old men’s boys club of people who never moved away after high school. So everyone’s happy to stay in their own lane. My husband is an ER physician and we moved here for his fellowship and ended up falling in love with the area. And we still love it! I just wish our son liked sports less so we wouldn’t have to witness this silly nonsense. I mean, this poor kid stuck on this intense travel team for a sport he is afraid of playing and isn’t good at. Luckily our daughter doesn’t have an athletic bone in her body. [/quote]

Wow, you and your DH bot sound like real snobs.[/quote]

What part of "we fell in love with this area and we still love it" makes us sound like snobs? Lol. When we first moved here we tried to make friends with everyone and it became very clear very quickly that there is a small town social hierarchy in place and while the moms and kids are happy to branch out (pleasantly surprised about the moms!), the dads were NOT.  And my husband is the furthest thing from a social striver out there.  He made work friends, and friends with 1 or 2 other dads who like to go running on the weekends together, and doesn't care about trying to get his foot in the door or of an old boys club that doesn't want him.  It's fine. [/quote]

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