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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH has been trying to get his father into a care facility for two years. Unfortunately, while his wife complains almost daily about how she cannot care for him any longer, she refuses to place him there. DH has visited 4 facilities and repeated visits to total 8-10 at this point. Without medical POA, DH can't make any decisions. Wife will not place FIL in hospice. She does not appear to understand what hospice even is. It's all so exhausting for my husband who feels helpless.

This morning I told DH to tell the wife to contact me for a few days and block her, but he won't do that. My DH is angry and miserable but does not want to create waves at this difficult time. This has been going on for years now as his father gets progressively worse. I wonder why the doctor allowed FIL's wishes to be disregarded. [b]Can a Medical POA just override a documented MOLST without consequence?[/b][/quote]

In my parent’s state, there is a check box as to whether the POA can override.

My parent has chosen no, even though she 100% trusts me to follow her wishes.

DH should have an original copy of the MOLST and be POA if FIL was serious, but he’s not.

He didn’t button up his affairs, so these are the consequences for FIL and your DH. This is the choice FIL made when he remarried and button up his affairs. [/quote]

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