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[quote=Anonymous]So, it's healthy to tell a 4- and 6-year-old that their father is mentally ill when their lives have been torn asunder first by the split then by the change in visitation? Seriously, what's healthy about that in this context? Telling a white lie now is not going to make the children feel rejected or abandoned. Telling the children that Dad's got work and will see you twice a week (if OP can push to get that) seems fine for now. And it's true. His work is to get well and resume his role as a parent. I cannot imagine that every pediatrician and child therapist in the world would be opposed to that approach. If the children's parents were together, a lie would not be right. If the children were older, they could handle the truth. We don't tell children everything.

Let's say a spouse strays. The other spouse finds out. They agree to save the marriage. One morning, a 4-year-old finds the mother crying in the kitchen and asks what wrong. What does the mother say? Your daddy had an affair and I am heartbroken? NO! She lies![/quote]

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