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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here. What kind of man are you? If you can't take care of your family on 6 figures then you aren't much of a man. Heck you don't even need that much. My husband would never make me work at a job I hated. I don't care if he made 30,000 a year- he would make it work so I could be happy.

I work because I want to. If I don't want to then I will stop. My husband does not need me to take care of our family financially but he appreciates whatever I want to do. And we are not rich or wealthy.

Sounds like you should have married one of the manly women on here who are sure to come to your defense and call your wife lazy. Or maybe you should have married your paycheck.

It doesn't matter...you are still acting like a punk. [/quote]

This.

You sound like my ex-husband. And your attitude is why he is my ex-husband. I cannot fathom being married to someone who gave so little regard to his wife's desire to be home with her children for the very short amount of time that they are children (its not for everyone, but for those who want to do it) but to be FORCED to miss her babies' firsts over the matter of 1,000/month when her husband makes 150,000. I CANNOT imagine. I would, literally, never forgive you.

If she really makes 1,000 dollars a month - she can get a job making that ANY TIME. Does she have a college degree? She could make 100/day subbing in most school districts.

And I am quite sure that your wife is not telling you that she is fantasizing about lunching with the ladies (not that you'd fund such frivolity) but about being with her kids - your kids.

So glad I divorced my ex before we had any kids and married a real man. I'm home with my baby because I will never get this time back. My husband is happily paying the bills. Yes, a screaming baby can get frustrating but it is worth EVERY MINUTE. [/quote]

Op here. Jesus tap dancing Christ, you are harsh.

Look my wife is not a prisoner in my home, I'm not selling her into slave labour. We are a partnership trying to make a life for ourselves and our kids - that means making tradeoffs sometimes, and sometimes those tradeoffs suck. My job has a lot of stress and a fair amount of travel, but I do it because it means my kids 529 plans are funded. It's a hard choice, I'd like to sit at home with him too, but I made the choice that giving them access to a quality education was perhaps more important than my being a 9 to 4 employee. Don't think that doesn't eat me up at times, it does. And this is a judgement call my wife and I made together. All of these decisions come at some cost, you seem ti think its costless. It isnt. And yes, part of that equation is financial - your conclusion that she can just get a job making $1,000 a month in the future demonstrates either a lack of critical thinking skills or poor reading comprehension, not knowing which I won't bother to point out the fallacy of such a POV. But it also non financial: my wife quitting means she gives up (at least to some degree) her professional aspirations, her network of "work friends", etc. that might be worth loosing but it's not black and white. 
Sometimes we see eye to eye - sometimes we don't. What makes this a functional relationship is that I'm actively seeking feedback on my perspective so that I can better understand whether my concerns are reasonable or not. Moreover, although I've called them my concerns, they are shared concerns with my wife. I am perhaps more nervous about these than she (and she more nervous than I about others such as loosing a great nanny, perhaps regretting her decision).

I'm not a perfect husband... not by a long shot, but I'm trying to do what's right for my family. Sounds like your ex husband didn't, which is unfortunate, just try to remember we aren't all gaping assholes. [/quote]

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