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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The solution? Help to support her decision. 
“Your family is so lucky to have you”
“The best is yet to come”
“Tell me what you would like to do with that degree in the future”
Etc [/quote]

Exactly. Your friend is reaching out with these comments and you are thinking of them as surface annoyances. But when someone brings something up over and over, it's usually because it's weighing on them heavily. She's having a hard time with her identity and life choices, and I agree with others that probably the biggest issue is that society looks down on SAHMs and especially as kids get older, there is an attitude like, "oh what do you DO though" even if you spent two decades doing everything.

I think if you actually want to stay friends and not just ditch her because she has this annoying habit, you need to think empathetically about why she says this stuff. It's not to annoy you, it has to do with her own feelings and mindset.

Also consider that she may say it to you out of a fear that you don't respect her or don't think she's intelligent, and some part of her might feel the need to remind you that she was a very professionally successful person at some point. That she's not "just a mom." Is there anything you might be doing inadvertently to make her feel like she has to prove herself?[/quote]

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