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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not friends with people who refuse to have an adult conversation with me about something that concerns us both. [/quote]

I am not friends with the mom. I was not friends with her before and don’t really care about being friends with her now or ever. Even when our kids were super close before, she was not the type I would want to hang out together just the two moms and two daughters. It has always been drop off only.

This girl is one of my child’s closest friends and the girls have made up and once again very good friends. I don’t want the girls’ friendship to suffer because this mom has a grudge against me.[/quote]

But she wasn't asking to go out for drinks and gab about your sex lives. She requested a meeting with the school to discuss a conflict between your kids that was apparently significant enough to upset both of them at home.

It's fine to not be friends with the parents of your kid's friends. But you can't just not engage. You can't just keep it "drop off only" when the kids are close and dealing with interpersonal conflict.

You need to think of other parents like coworkers. You don't have to be buddies, but you can't just ignore a request from a colleague for a meeting to discuss a project you are both involved in. The girls' relationship is your joint project. You can't just nope out and assume your colleague (the other girl's mom) is going to be cool with it.

Pretend we live in a society.[/quote]

I learned later the girl had a formal complaint logged against her by a family the prior year.

This is a small school. While I don’t want to make this a big deal, I heard from others how this girl use to bully another girl. That family isn’t so cordial.[/quote]

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