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[quote=Anonymous]I've seen this with first wives as well. They are frustrated and it is all too much, but they also don't know how to wrap their heads around losing their spouse. They also see the spouse 24/7 in a way that kids don't. They see those moments where the spouse seems almost normal, or has a good day, and it makes it seem less real that it is the end. Also, people frequently stair step down into death, which causes the brain to accept the new status quo with each step down as not that bad it compares to where they started. They adjust to the new normal each time.

The kids don't lose their day-to-day partner. They lose a parent who they generally don't live with, and have a whole other life.

All I'm saying is that the end is hard on everyone, but in different ways. And I'm saying this from the kids side, post it finally being over. There is just so much frustration, and sadness, and fear.

In this case, it feels as if OP's DH wants it to end (for all the right reasons) and the wife doesn't want it to be over. And she is complaining because she wants it to be different, and can't or won't wrap her head around the fact that the options at hand all have drawbacks. So she chooses the one she thinks she can live with the best.

I'm sorry your DH is going through this. There is nothing easy about this stage of life.[/quote]

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