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[quote=Anonymous]I mean… some of this sounds less like “he does nothing” and more like “he doesn’t do it the way I would.” He cooks, just not the way you want. The kids aren’t feral. The car still functions. Not every dent requires CSI Suburbia to get on the case with video evidence. And he's right about not involving insurance... why call State Farm so your premium can jump $600 over a $900 repair? That's silly.

If you’re focused on filling every summer day with (even local or low-cost) experiences for your kids and then raging that you have no time to scrub the bathroom or for yourself, I think what he's trying to tell you is that you can stop trying to do everything at once, and you can stop some of this stuff. The kids don't always need to be entertained or enriched! (Pro tip: offer them an activity once the bathroom is cleaned, and they get to help you!)

Yes, he should step up on shared adult stuff like getting the car fixed. But you also might want to separate actual neglect from “not my standard.” Otherwise, you’re going to keep building a to-do list just to resent him for not meeting your standards for how you want things to be or to be done.[/quote]

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