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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, you cannot make her understand, because this is not a reasoned decision on your part. It's an emotional decision. Choosing to believe in a religion is an emotional decision.

Yes, you can coerce her into a life she does not want until she's financially independent from you. Many parents all around the world think it is acceptable to force things upon their children, because they believe their children are extensions of themselves.

But actions have consequences. Do not then complain years from now that she does not behave like a dutiful adult daughter, does not visit as often as she should, and doesn't come running when you're old and in need of help.

- BTDT.

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BTDT? Sorry. What does this mean?[/quote]

It means "Been there, done that". I'm the poster from above. My mother was hyper-controlling (not for religion, but for everything else). I moved to a different continent as soon as I could, for grad school, and made my life on that continent. I only return to her country for short visits. We do not have a relationship based on trust, because she has shown me, time and again, that what she believes to be my best interest is not actually my best interest.

So have a care how you embed this church-going in the life of your child, OP. There are ways to persuade a child to do things they don't want to do, by convincing them that you really love them, and by meeting their emotional needs in other ways. That way, they see you are truly on their side. But if everything in their life is one unending "Do it because I told you so and ignore your own feelings" slog, then they will not trust you as adults and everything you forced down their throats as children will be for naught.

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